the congregation I was in for almost 15 years barely even knew I existed! They were all well off, lived in big houses and had their little Cancun getaways and golf sessions every year. They were known for being materialistic and had many many cliques. Yes they had a strong brotherhood among the ones who fit in but the ones who didn't were treated like crap!
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Do Witnesses have a Stronger Brotherhood than Christendom Does?
by gumby inthis came up in discussion between me and a fellow ex-dub buddy of mine.. as jw's, we had a brotherly unity.....at least many of us did.
if we were going somewhere and needed a witness to watch our place....even stay at our place, we had no reserves about being ripped off by them.
they were closer than some families members oftentimes and we even preferred being around them as opposed to "wordly" family members.
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Do Witnesses have a Stronger Brotherhood than Christendom Does?
by gumby inthis came up in discussion between me and a fellow ex-dub buddy of mine.. as jw's, we had a brotherly unity.....at least many of us did.
if we were going somewhere and needed a witness to watch our place....even stay at our place, we had no reserves about being ripped off by them.
they were closer than some families members oftentimes and we even preferred being around them as opposed to "wordly" family members.
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Thinking of Leaving
really good question you ask. I have often wondered this myself and have even thought about going to another church to see what they're like.
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Has your brain been re-wired with the "F" word?
by Gregor ini learned an interesting fact from my father's doctor when he was being treated for a stroke.
mom had mentioned that even though dad couldn't speak well enough to ask for a glass of water he could clearly say, "goddammit".
the dr. explained that epithets are from a different part of the brain and this area had not been affected by the stroke.. i found this very interesting.
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Thinking of Leaving
I never liked listening to people swear, even in movies, now that I"m DF I still hate it. When I get mad I say shit and crap alot though, does that count?
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Why would a young sister marry an old brother?
by JH ini recall a ms brother about 62 years old dating and marrying a sister about 30 years younger.
i respect their choice and if they are in love, well good for them.
but i don't think it's to the best interest of the younger one...... do jw's accept bigger age differences in marriage than other religions?.
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I would of probably ended up marrying an old man if I didn't leave the Org. Imagine 34 and not married yet, the only ones available were divorced JW''s with kids and emotional baggage. And because there are 10 sisters to every brother, chances were pretty slim I was going to be the "chosen" one.
Now that I'm a worldling I have an array of choices. It's great! I no longer have to date some hypocritical, self righteous JW and force it to work just because I want to get married and there aren't that many to chose from.
My friend, still a JW, went on the internet and met this "brother" who was 20 years her senior. She was just over forty and he was over 60. They eventually met on a cruise after a year of communicating and guess what? The "brother" wasn't interested in her after he met her in person. What bothers me about this is that she really liked him (old and wrinkled up as he was) and would of considered marrying this man simply because she was 40, never married, no kids and still a virgin. The sisters in the borg have their work cut out for them. Thank God I'm out!
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Friendly talk with a couple of elders
by TooBad TooSad inlast week i received a home visit from a couple of elders because they were concerned about my spirituality.
and lack of progress.
i said so you can guarantee the end will be here in 5 years.
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Thinking of Leaving
I'm just curious, who here believes the world might actually come to an end? I don't mean soon or anything like that, but does anyone believe that something IS actually going to happen?
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What sort of a witness were you?
by brinjen ini'm talking door to door service work here.
were you the kind who would insist on getting a conversation at ever door?
or where you (like me) the kind who would take a "not interested" as an excuse to get the hell out of the householders face?
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Thinking of Leaving
Let's just say I was a weakness not a witness
but seriously, I was always a good girl, never got in trouble with the elders, went on service weekly and attended all the meetings, even pioneered from time to time. When I started slacking off it took some getting use to, but eventually I learned to enjoy my Sundays, Saturdays and Wednesday nights off. By the way, I hated field service.
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Can one man be an Island? Bumping into old workmates - awkward
by needproof ini like to consider myself a bit of an island.
some might call what i do anti-social.
as an island, i have to face inescapable facts - those being that sometimes, i must travel to the mainland.
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Thinking of Leaving
I don't know, maybe it's a cultural thing. Where I come from (the islands) people are friendly and happy to see you, especially the ones you haven't seen for a long time. I'm a people person and if I see someone I know I would definitely stop and talk to them. Maybe it's a female thing, I'm not sure.
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Physical Chemistry
by Thinking of Leaving injust how important is chemistry in maintaining a long term relationship?
i mean what if you really love this person or atleast think you do, he treats you well, is educated, has ambition, he's everything you want in a man but you're not really that attracted to him.
your heart doesn't skip a beat when he kisses you.
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hmm lol, I know it's important but is it that important to end things with someone just because you don't find him sexually appealing? keep in mind he's a great man! will the chemistry come later on?
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Physical Chemistry
by Thinking of Leaving injust how important is chemistry in maintaining a long term relationship?
i mean what if you really love this person or atleast think you do, he treats you well, is educated, has ambition, he's everything you want in a man but you're not really that attracted to him.
your heart doesn't skip a beat when he kisses you.
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Just how important is chemistry in maintaining a long term relationship? I mean what if you really love this person or atleast think you do, he treats you well, is educated, has ambition, he's everything you want in a man but you're not really that attracted to him. Your heart doesn't skip a beat when he kisses you
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What Was Your Social Life Like As A Witness?
by minimus inmy (ex)wife and i asssociated with a few other couples and was considered "popular".
how was your social life?
did you have much of one?
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Thinking of Leaving
social life? I had none, I wasn't rich, I wasn't married and had no family who were high ranking elders/ministerial servants. I pretty much kept to myself and can't remember the last time I was invited over. I'm out now though and trying to change this.